career, March 2024

Quitting Corporate: Why I Left My Six-Figure Job

I’ve been in the corporate world for almost nine years now. Working in cybersecurity for the majority of that time, I had a pretty great career. I have worked with executives, interview industry experts, and got to be a part of two companies becoming unicorns. I have traveled across the globe annually for work (I went to Spain—twice!) and have received amazing benefits (hello box tickets to see Dave Chapelle).

Plus the money? The money was good.

I went from scraping by, living paycheck to paycheck to making $120K per year (plus an 11% bonus). I had a stable income, a wonderful job, and great coworkers time and time again.

All-in-all, it has been an incredible ride. So why would I leave?

The simple answer: I wanted a change.

The Corporate Conundrum

Stability is fantastic—most people thrive on it. There’s the financial side of things: knowing exactly when money is going to hit your bank account, how much will be in there, and what you’re going to spend it on (groceries, bills, that purse you’ve been saving up for, etc.). There’s also beauty in the corporate routine—you wake up, get ready, go to work, and then go home. You know exactly what every day will look like.

My days were predictable. And I loved that.

But as time went on, I realized I was spending a lot of my time chasing after other people’s dreams. Day in and day out, I spent 8 hours a day working in cybersecurity. I would get off of work and have little to no energy to do the things that I wanted to do. Any energy I did have leftover was spent on my family—being a wife and (more recently in the past six months) a mother. Both roles I love deeply from the bottom of my heart.

But for 8 hours of the day, I was chasing after the dreams of whatever company I was working for and not my own. And that begs the question: what are my dreams?

Embracing My Calling

In kindergarten, everyone is asked what they want to be when they grow up. Some kids want to be astronauts, others want to be firefighters and a special few want to be Batman or Superman.

For me? I figured I would be a music teacher like my mom. My parents encouraged my musical talents, getting me my clarinet and paying for singing lessons. I loved performing in concerts and I kicked butt at the vocal competitions. So I went to school for music education.

But when it actually came time to actually teach, I realized I sucked at it. I royally sucked at it. To the point where I needed to switch my major from music education in college to something else entirely. Yes. I was that bad.

So I switched majors, got my English degree, and graduated college.

Now, I’ve seen some authors come out the gate swinging—focusing all their efforts on getting published. And I’m happy for them. But my focus when I graduated college was one thing: money. I needed money to pay off my student loans and not be a burden on my parents.

So my creativity was pushed to the side while I went down a corporate career path that served me well for years. But there was always a part of me that wanted to go back to my dream of writing. And that dream of writing also tied in with my dream of becoming a stay-at-home mom.

Breaking Free: The Decision to Leave the Corporate World

Leaving the corporate world to pursue my dream of becoming a stay-at-home mom and writer was a decision that had been years in the making. It wasn’t a whim or a desire that came out of nowhere. It was a goal that had been cultivated after tons of careful consideration and unyielding determination.

When I said goodbye to my job in February, I knew I was embarking on a new chapter of my life. I was both excited and scared. Would I regret my decision? Would I be bored? Would I be disciplined enough to achieve my writing goals while simultaneously being a homemaker for my family?

Now, as March draws to a close, I can confidently say that I have zero doubts or regrets about my decision. I wake up in the morning energized knowing that I have plenty of time to be both a mother and a writer. The ability to nurture my family while also pursuing my creative ambitions brings me an unparalleled sense of fulfillment and contentment. The freedom to shape my days according to my own priorities and aspirations is a privilege I cherish deeply.

Instead of feeling constrained by the demands of a corporate career, I am empowered by the autonomy to pursue my goals on my own terms. This newfound balance between motherhood and writing has brought me immense joy and satisfaction, affirming that I made the right choice for myself and my family. Looking back, I am grateful for the courage to take that leap of faith and for the incredible sense of fulfillment it has brought into my life.

Conclusion

To those who also want to hop on the bandwagon of quitting corporate, I suggest you weigh your decision carefully as I did. The main thing is making sure you are stable financially to do so and have enough self-discipline to plan out your day. Once you determine that you are ready, take the leap of faith and follow your dreams.

March 2024

Enhancing Romance in Fantasy Romance Novels through Magical Realms and Worlds

Fantasy romance combines elements of both fantasy and romance genres, creating a unique and enchanting world for readers to explore. While the range of themes in fantasy romance is diverse, several common elements and motifs tend to appear across various works in this genre.

Fantasy romance often occurs in magical or fantastical settings, including otherworldly realms, enchanted forests, or mystical kingdoms. These settings provide a captivating backdrop for romantic adventures.

Escapism and Wonder

Magical realms offer readers a chance to escape from ordinary and mundane aspects of everyday life. The enchanting settings, fantastical landscapes, and otherworldly elements create a sense of wonder that immerses readers in a world beyond their own. This escapism can intensify the emotional experience of the romance between the protagonists, making it even more captivating and memorable.

For example, in “A Court of Thorns and Roses” series, the magical realm of Prythian is a captivating world filled with different faerie courts, each with unique magic and challenges. The protagonist, Feyre Archeron, navigates through enchanting landscapes, faces mystical creatures, and encounters otherworldly phenomena. The magical setting not only serves as a backdrop for her romantic journey with the faerie high lord (shout out to the Suriel for this nugget), but also amplifies the emotional intensity of their relationship as they grapple with curses, political intrigue, and the consequences of their love.

Symbolism and Metaphor

Elements within magical realms often carry symbolic significance or act as metaphors for the emotions and challenges faced by the characters. For example, a mystical barrier separating two lovers might represent societal restrictions, and overcoming it could symbolize the triumph of love over adversity.

In the series “Shadow Hunters” by Cassandra Clare, the magical realm of the Shadowhunters introduces the concept of the Mortal Cup, an object with the power to create new Shadowhunters. Clary Fray, a human, and Jace Wayland, a Shadowhunter, navigate their burgeoning romance amidst the challenges of supernatural conflicts and societal differences. The Mortal Cup becomes a metaphor for the obstacles they face, symbolizing the struggle against the prejudices and divisions between their two worlds.

Unique Challenges and Obstacles

The magical nature of the world allows authors to introduce unique challenges and obstacles to the romantic relationship. Whether it’s navigating through enchanted forests, overcoming magical curses, or dealing with fantastical creatures, these challenges add complexity to the romance and provide opportunities for character growth.

Take “Howl’s Moving Castle” by Diana Wynne Jones, for example. The novel is set in a magical world where the protagonist, Sophie Hatter, encounters a moving castle owned by the wizard Howl. As Sophie navigates through the magical challenges of the castle (the secrets hidden in its walls) and the wider world, her relationship with Howl undergoes transformations. Dealing with curses, magical contracts, and fantastical landscapes serves as a catalyst for character growth and adds layers of complexity to the unfolding romance.

Heightened Emotional Intensity

The presence of magic and supernatural elements can intensify the emotional aspects of the romance. Magical settings often amplify the stakes, making the love story feel more significant and profound. The use of magical rituals or spells can also heighten the emotional impact of pivotal moments in the relationship.

In “A Discovery of Witches” by Deborah Harkness, the presence of magic and supernatural beings intensifies the emotional aspects of the romance between Diana Bishop, a witch, and Matthew Clairmont, a vampire. The magical setting serves to heighten the stakes of their relationship. From the hallowed halls of the Bodleian Library at Oxford to the ancient streets of historical cities, every location brims with otherworldly energy that mirrors the intensity of their forbidden love. As they navigate this enchanted world, they must confront not only societal taboos but also the dangers inherent in their own supernatural natures, adding layers of complexity to their romance.

Conclusion

Fantasy romance intertwines the realms of fantasy and romance, crafting a singular and captivating universe for readers to delve into. Though the thematic spectrum of this genre is broad, certain recurrent elements and motifs are prevalent throughout its many works. Typically unfolding within magical or fantastical landscapes—be they ethereal realms, bewitched woodlands, or enchanted kingdoms—fantasy romance sets the stage for enthralling romantic escapades against a backdrop of wonder and mystique.

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