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Lessons Homemaking Has Taught Me About Writing

Homemaking isn’t just about keeping things tidy and organized; it’s a daily practice that requires patience, persistence, attention to detail, and habits that bring a sense of balance. Here’s how these household skills fuel my creative work.


1. Patience: Embracing the Slow and Steady Progress

Keeping a home is a marathon, not a sprint, and it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the endless list of chores. Writing a novel—or even just a chapter—can feel similarly daunting. Both tasks require a patient, one-step-at-a-time approach. I’ve learned that just as a clean house doesn’t happen overnight, neither does a well-written book. Taking it one task at a time, celebrating small victories, and trusting the process have made me a more resilient and patient writer.


2. Persistence: Showing Up Even on the Tough Days

Some days, managing a household can feel like running on autopilot: the dishes pile up, the laundry keeps spinning, and the same routines repeat day after day. Writing, too, can feel repetitive, especially during rough drafts when progress is slow. But homemaking has taught me that persistence—showing up daily, even when I’m tired or uninspired—leads to results. Small, consistent efforts accumulate over time, whether I’m polishing a story or tidying the living room.


3. Attention to Detail: Finding Magic in the Little Things

In homemaking, attention to detail can make a world of difference—whether it’s arranging flowers on a table or adding a cozy touch to a reading nook. This same eye for detail enriches my writing, helping me create vivid, immersive worlds for my characters. Just as a well-kept home feels inviting, a well-crafted story draws readers in with its richness. I’ve found that focusing on sensory details in my stories—like the glow of a candle or the rustling of leaves—often stems from the same appreciation I have for those small, meaningful touches at home.


4. Daily Habits: Building a Foundation for Creative Flow

Homemaking involves countless small routines that make a house feel like home: morning coffee rituals, afternoon clean-ups, or evening wind-downs. These habits keep my day organized, leaving room for creativity. Similarly, having daily writing routines—like starting my day with a writing session or ending it by jotting down ideas—helps my creative mind stay engaged. I’ve found that establishing habits is essential for maintaining momentum and motivation, both in writing and homemaking.


Final Thoughts: The Balance Between Creativity and Responsibility

The life of a writer who’s also managing a home is one of balance. Homemaking reminds me to embrace the dual nature of creativity and responsibility, where I can lean into both discipline and imagination. By drawing on the lessons of patience, persistence, attention to detail, and the power of daily habits, I’m creating a nurturing environment not only for my family but also for my creative projects.


Whether you’re a writer, a homemaker, or both, remember that these skills we develop in daily life have a powerful impact on our craft. The more we learn from one part of our life, the more it enriches the other—and, ultimately, that’s what makes the journey fulfilling.

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Homemaking as a Writing Escape: How Domestic Tasks Can Recharge Creativity

As a writer and a homemaker, I often find myself shifting between the imaginary worlds in my head and the very real responsibilities of maintaining a home. While at first, I used to see homemaking tasks as distractions from my writing, I’ve come to realize that these small breaks are some of the best creative tools I have. Stepping away to focus on something physical—whether it’s cleaning, cooking, or even a bit of decorating—often leaves me feeling more refreshed, inspired, and eager to dive back into my story.

Here’s why stepping away from the keyboard for a bit of homemaking is more than just a necessity; it’s a way to recharge and revitalize your creativity.

1. Physical Activity Clears Mental Blocks

Writing can be mentally taxing, and after a while, your brain just needs a break. Doing something physical, like scrubbing the counters or vacuuming, gives your mind a chance to rest while keeping your body moving. These tasks don’t require the same mental energy as writing but do stimulate blood flow and release endorphins, both of which can help you break through creative blocks. While sweeping the floor or folding laundry, your brain has a chance to process ideas subconsciously, and I’ve found that some of my best ideas come during these moments.

2. Fresh Perspectives Through Change in Focus

When you’re deep into writing, it’s easy to get tunnel vision, seeing your story from only one angle. Stepping away to tend to homemaking tasks gives your brain a chance to reset. Sometimes, I’ll come back to my manuscript with a fresh outlook or a new way of approaching a scene. For instance, while cooking, I might think of different “ingredients” I can add to a character’s personality or backstory, or how I can “spice up” a plot point. Changing my focus from words on a page to tangible household tasks invites new perspectives, often leading to more layered storytelling.

3. Ideas Often Strike When You’re Not Looking

There’s something about the routine of homemaking that makes it easier for ideas to slip into your mind unbidden. While folding clothes or stirring a pot, the repetitive motion can feel meditative, which allows your subconscious mind to bubble up solutions or ideas you may have been struggling to find. If I’m stuck on a plot twist or can’t figure out how to develop a character, I’ll often do the dishes or start decluttering a room, and before I know it, a new idea will pop up seemingly out of nowhere.

4. Homemaking Invokes Sensory Inspiration

Homemaking tasks often engage the senses in ways that sitting at a desk simply doesn’t. Think of the texture of fresh laundry, the smell of simmering soup, the sound of a vacuum. These sensory experiences can add richness to your writing by reconnecting you with the small, real-world details that make stories come alive. Sometimes, I’ll even incorporate these moments directly into my writing. Maybe the scent of spices while cooking reminds me of a character’s favorite meal, or a cleaning task inspires a metaphor for a character’s need to “clear the clutter” from their life. These sensory moments can bring a new depth to scenes and settings, helping readers feel more connected to the story.

5. Balance and Boundaries are Key to Avoiding Burnout

It’s easy to feel that every spare moment should be spent on writing, but balance is essential. When I allow myself time to focus on homemaking—tidying the space around me, prepping a comforting meal, or decorating my workspace for the season—it’s like giving my mind permission to rest and recharge. These breaks act as boundaries, helping me avoid burnout. I’ve come to view homemaking not as a distraction but as an essential part of the creative cycle, offering balance to the mental demands of writing.

6. Feeling Accomplished Boosts Confidence

There’s something satisfying about finishing a household task that makes you feel accomplished and capable. This sense of achievement can be a powerful motivator to bring back into your writing. When I finish organizing a space or putting together a nice meal, I feel ready to tackle my manuscript again, knowing I’ve already accomplished something that day. This boost of confidence can go a long way when you’re working on a tricky chapter or struggling to hit your word count goal.

Making Time for Breaks: A Creative Ritual

Over time, I’ve made breaks for homemaking a natural part of my writing process. I set aside specific times in the day when I switch from writing to homemaking and treat these moments as part of my creative ritual. Not only does it help me maintain a tidy home and fulfill my other responsibilities, but it also gives my writing a steady rhythm of productivity and rest.

If you’re finding yourself stuck or uninspired, I encourage you to step away from the screen. Engage in a homemaking task you enjoy or one that simply needs to get done. Let your mind wander and open itself up to ideas, solutions, and fresh perspectives. You might just find that when you return to your writing, you’re able to approach it with renewed energy and creativity.

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New Release Announcement: “The Midnight Masquerade” is Now Available on Kindle Unlimited!

I’m thrilled to share that The Midnight Masquerade is now live on Kindle Unlimited! 🎉 This Halloween-themed urban fantasy romance is ready for you to dive into. Set in a remote, gothic manor, it blends mystery, romance, and supernatural allure—all wrapped in the perfect dark, enchanted setting for fall reading.

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How to Stay Fit During NaNoWriMo (or Any Writing Marathon)

When you’re deep in the writing zone, especially during events like NaNoWriMo, it’s easy to find yourself sitting for long stretches. But maintaining a fitness routine during these intense writing periods is essential for both your physical health and mental clarity. Here’s how you can stay active without disrupting your writing flow:


1. Incorporate Quick Workouts into Your Day

Short, efficient workouts can keep your body moving and your energy up without taking too much time away from writing. Here are some options that require minimal space and time:

  • 5-Minute HIIT Workout
    Alternate between 30 seconds of high-intensity exercises like jumping jacks, mountain climbers, and squats, with 30 seconds of rest. Repeat for five minutes.
  • Tabata Sprints (4 minutes)
    Try 20 seconds of intense exercise (like sprinting in place or burpees), followed by 10 seconds of rest. Do this for four minutes straight.
  • Core Strength Circuit (10 minutes)
    Perform 1 minute each of planks, Russian twists, bicycle crunches, and leg raises. Rest for 1 minute, then repeat.
  • Yoga Flow (5-10 minutes)
    A quick yoga flow focusing on flexibility and relaxation can ease tension in your neck, shoulders, and back. Sun salutations, downward dog, and cobra pose are great to get the blood flowing.

2. Desk Exercises to Keep Moving

Even when you’re glued to your chair, you can do simple exercises that keep your muscles engaged:

  • Seated Leg Lifts
    Sit up straight, extend one leg out in front of you, and hold for 10 seconds. Lower slowly, and repeat on the other side. Do 10 reps for each leg.
  • Seated Marching
    Alternate lifting your knees toward your chest, mimicking a march while sitting. This helps engage your core and legs.
  • Shoulder Shrugs and Rolls
    Every 20-30 minutes, do a set of shoulder shrugs or rolls to relieve tension from hours of sitting and typing.
  • Chair Squats
    Stand up from your chair, then slowly sit back down without using your hands. Repeat for 10-15 reps to engage your glutes and legs.
  • Neck Stretches
    Tilt your head side to side and forward and back to stretch your neck muscles and relieve tightness from looking at a screen.

3. Plan Active Breaks

Use breaks between writing sprints to move around, clear your mind, and get your blood circulating:

  • Pomodoro Technique + Activity
    Write for 25 minutes, then take a 5-minute break. Use these breaks to walk around, stretch, or do light exercises like squats, lunges, or calf raises.
  • Walk and Brainstorm
    If you’re stuck in your story, take a brisk walk to clear your head while thinking through plot points. You might find inspiration on the move!
  • Stair Climbing
    If you have stairs nearby, spend 5-10 minutes walking or jogging up and down for a quick burst of cardio during your writing breaks.

4. Stretch and Reset Regularly

Sitting for hours can tighten muscles and cause discomfort, so regular stretching is crucial:

  • Hip Flexor Stretch
    Stand with one foot forward in a lunge position, then push your hips forward while keeping your chest up. Hold for 20-30 seconds on each side to release tight hip flexors.
  • Chest Opener
    Interlace your fingers behind your back and gently lift your arms, pulling your shoulders down and back. Hold for 20 seconds to open up the chest and counteract the hunched posture.
  • Seated Twist
    Sit tall, and twist to one side, holding the back of your chair for support. Hold for 20 seconds, then repeat on the other side to stretch the spine and torso.

5. Tips for Staying Active Without Disrupting Your Writing Flow

  • Set a Timer
    Use an app or timer to remind yourself to stand, stretch, or do a quick exercise every 30-60 minutes. Short, frequent movement breaks are more effective than one long workout after hours of sitting.
  • Desk-Friendly Equipment
    Keep resistance bands, hand weights, or a mini stepper by your desk for quick strength exercises without leaving your writing space.
  • Standing Desk or Stability Ball
    Consider alternating between sitting and standing by using a standing desk, or sit on a stability ball to engage your core while you write.
  • Hydration and Snacks
    Staying hydrated keeps your energy levels up, and healthy snacks (like nuts, fruit, or yogurt) can help you maintain focus without crashing.
  • Morning Movement
    Start your day with a longer workout before your writing session, whether it’s a jog, yoga class, or strength training. This sets a positive tone and helps you feel energized as you tackle your writing goals.

Conclusion

Maintaining a fitness routine during intense writing periods like NaNoWriMo is all about balance. By incorporating quick workouts, desk exercises, and regular movement breaks, you can stay active, energized, and focused without sacrificing precious writing time. Staying physically engaged not only benefits your health but also boosts creativity and productivity, helping you achieve your writing goals with ease!